Wedding planning is tough. I knew this before I got engaged, but I’m not sure I knew how much stress, heartache, patience and struggle it would be. Sometimes the only solution to reduce all of this is to have an “unwedding.” In other words, forget all you think you want for your wedding, and go with what you really want. Throw away those bridal magazines that say you have to spend a fortune just so your guests won’t kill you. Ignore your close friends, relatives and future in-laws and do what you, as a couple really really want to do. It’s your wedding anyway! To give ya’ll some extra advice, I’ve asked my July 3rd bride, Sarah, to guest blog and explain her approach for the perfect unwedding. I stumbled across Sarah’s blog after she booked me and I immediately knew he had some serious writing skill. Enjoy!
My fiancé and I have been together for 4 ½ years. Long time! We got engaged on Christmas and decided no long engagement for us. So we have started planning an April wedding. Let me tell ya, wedding planning is a serious business! (And a seriously expensive one too!)
In all my searching on prices, planning, wedding lists and more, I became over whelmed beyond belief. I would close all the sites I had open and just think, “Elopement, here we come!” Then I stumbled upon The (Un)Wedding: A 12-Step Plan.
This article gave me faith again! Sounds stupid, but I breathed a sigh of relief when I realized, there are no wedding police! If we choose something different, no one can say a word because its our wedding! I started dreaming and scheming. When I showed my ideas to future hubby, it was with bated breath!! He liked them. (Somewhat untraditional, but so very us!)
Un-wedding, here we come!!!
The Deets: We’re going to ½ it. We are literally pressing the pause after the ceremony (in my parent’s backyard in April) and picking up where we left off a few months later. The ceremony will be small and private (family & wedding party only). Directly after, we will have a small “send-off” to greet our guests including an ice cream sundae bar, cupcake tower and a little visiting time. Then we’ll leave on our honeymoon! *hits PAUSE* In July, we will have a dinner/dancing reception.*hits PLAY* Everything that normally happens at a reception will happen now: cake, toasts, dances, garter/bouquet tossing etc. It will be a big fun party to celebrate our marriage with friends and family. We chose this format because it works for us. Might not work for everyone, but it sure fits us fine!
Besides the “format” for the wedding, I’ve surprised myself and my mom with how “untraditional” I’ve wanted other things, including my dress. Its definitely not one of these wedding cake topper, “I look like a cupcake”, princess, snow-white gowns. It’s got a vintage feel and made me cry when I put it on. (I’m a big baby!) I absolutely love it. As we plan more and more, it is definitely “unwedding” and especially “us-wedding”. Invites, bouquets, decorations—all fits us, no cookie cutter format here! Come on, April!! We are ready to be married and celebrate. (Plus, I’m super excited to see how it will all turn out!)
–Sarah “Future Mrs. T” Maxwell
You can read more from Sarah’s Blog at: http://thefuturemrst.wordpress.com/ and her engagement session can be viewed here: http://allenarrick.com/allenarrickphotoblog/?p=713